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Never Heard From Again

AngelaDear Archie and Angela:

I have had some very disheartening experiences with my internet dates lately; after cordial first meetings that seemed to go well (to me), the guys said good-bye and “see ya soon” but never called or contacted me again.  I’m not a bad looker.  What’s up with guys?  Where are their manners?

Signed, Left and Long Forgotten
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ANGELA:

Dear Forgotten,

I asked a guy this question once and his answer was, “because we are basically cowards”.  Now with further discussion, it just seems that they really don’t like to hurt a woman’s feelings – so rather than say the truth (“I don’t think there is a connection here; I won’t be calling”) they would rather just avoid the truth or sugar-coat things.

We are all a little vulnerable when meeting someone new and we would rather err on the side of kindness, I think.  What have YOU said to a date that you knew you didn’t want to see again?  Let’s make a list of some options:

     – Thank you for taking the time to meet me, but I’m not feeling a connection here.  You know chemistry; it has a life of its own!

     – I enjoyed talking to you, but I’m just not feeling it.  Thanks and I wish you luck in your search.

Take some time to think about how you will tell your date that things will not work out for you (and be careful with that one – because he may retort that you didn’t even give things a CHANCE to work out), because the majority of your dates are likely to end that way!  You may not want to think that (oh ye hopeful ladies!), but Internet dating is a VOLUME endeavor.

Also remember that most men will know within the first few minutes of SEEING you, whether they are interested or not.  The visual creatures that they are, they are hard-wired to be attracted to a certain BODY type of woman.  DO be forthcoming with full body shots in your profile and you will save yourself ALOT of heartache.  There are 3.5 billion men out there, and believe me, PLENTY who love your body type and are excited to meet you!!

 

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